이 논문은 경상도 선산의 무반(武班) 노상추(盧尙樞, 1746∼1829)의 일기에서 나타난 여성들의 친정왕래를 통하여 그들의 관계적 실재를 탐색하였다. 노상추 집안의 딸들은 혼인 후에 친정을 출입하고, 사위들도 처가를 왕래하며, 때로는 딸들을 대신하여 사위가 처가에 소식을 전해주고 있었다. 친정아버지는 딸이 아프면 약을 지어주거나 직접 딸을 데려다 친정에서 요양시킨다. 노상추의 고모, 여동생, 딸, 형수, 제수, 조카며느리, 서조모 등이 친정을 왕래한 것은 그의 일기 기록으로 실재하고 있다. 비교적 자유로운 노상추 여동생의 친정 출입배경에는 친정의 경제력, 사돈과의 지인 관계, 그리고 맏며느리가 아니라는 점 등을 들 수 있으며, 이 외에도 친정아버지가 상속해준 전답을 돌보거나 친정 일에 관여했을 가능성도 생각해 볼 수 있다. 이 연구는 조선 후기 노상추가에서 여성들이 반친영의 혼인 후에도 친정과 교류를 하고 있던 것을 구체적으로 밝혀주었으며, 여성들의 친정왕래에는 사위의 처가왕래까지 포함하여 통합적으로 보아야 함을 사례로 보여주었으며, 여성들이 친정에서 도움을 받을 뿐 아니라 친정에 주체적인 역할을 수행하고 있음을 보여주어, 양반 여성의 실재를 친족들과의 관계 속에서 밝혀주었다는 의의를 가진다.

This paper explored the reality of women who appeared in the diaries of Muban Noh Sang-chu (1746-1829) in Seonsan, Gyeongsang-do. Historical analysis indicates that the chul-ga-oei-in (出嫁外人) ideology, which considers women as an outsider after marriage, was not strictly applied in the Noh family. Noh’s daughters visited their parents' house after marriage while sons-in-law kept close ties with the wives’ family, i.e., bringing news and traveling to and from their in-law’s house. The diary demonstrates that when a daughter is sick, her father would get a medicine prescribed for her or takes her home for recovery. Noh’s diary shows that women in his family visited their parents’ home, depicted daily lives of Noh’s aunt, younger sister, daughter, sister-in-law, nephew’s daughter-in-law, and grandmother. Noh’s sister visited her parents’ house particularly often and stayed for a long time once she visited. Her autonomy to freely visit parents was possible since she was not the eldest daughter-in-law in her husband’s family. In addition, it is also fair to assume that she managed her father’s inheritances or was actively engaged in occasions at her parents’ house. This study reveals that women interacted with their parents even after marriage in the late Chosun Dynasty. In particular, the study conveys that son-in-law’s visit to wife’s family should be regarded as women’s visiting her parents’ house in a broader perspective. It has been revealed that women not only received support from their parents, but also played an independent role in their parents' home as an aunt, daughter, and younger sister. This study, which aims to reveal the reality of women as its specific role in relationships with relatives, holds significance in presenting alternative explanations to existing male and paternal oriented studies.